Been talking to some friends about the first relationships post-breakup. We’re all at different points in our relationship lives. One is recently married to the first person she’s been in a relationship with in over 4 years. One broke off an engagement a few years back due to cheating. One is getting ready to get married (more on that this week and next). And one has been more or less happily married for 7 years.

The topic is… when is too soon?? The relationship book market is saturated with books about rules and regulations. TV psychologists come up with snappy slogans that don’t mean a blasted thing and have ratings out the roof!

My girls all try to be encouraging by saying that things will happen when they’re supposed to happen. For the most part I believe that but sometimes you have to stop and ask yourself… are you really ready? I’ve been separated for 7 months and most of what I miss is companionship. Don’t get me wrong, “I definitely miss being 10 toes up 10 toes down” but finding some arse has never been a serious issue for me. Not everybody u want to get nekkid with is someone you want to settle into a comfy little thing with! Sometimes it is what it is?

Right now I’m just doing me. I worry about rushing into a relationship too soon (not that it’s really been a problem or anything…. fine men aren’t riding up on chariots trying to woo me or anything). But I’m working on not being snippy with people because I just plain ole don’t want them to get that deep in my world. I’m liable to change my mind in a heartbeat for the most trivial reasons .

It’s interesting to watch the whole relationship thing through my girls…. the one that is the most happily married is married to “the rebound guy” and my ex and I dated longer than anyone we know and we’re the first to bust up. Who knows whether the next relationship is the one that brings us completeness or just gets us over the “hump” ;)