Ok so I have alot to say today.
Had my second military drill this weekend. So easy. You gotta love going to work and doing nothing all day. I’ve been out of the military for 4 years now and things are coming back to me slowly. I enjoy the people in my new unit so it makes the time go by faster.
I didn’t forget I have a “ghetto wedding story” for you. I just have to sit down and write it out without laughing my head off.
But anyhoo, on to the title of this post. I always consider myself one who never settles for less. I work my butt off in everything I do. But this weekend, I discovered something I never knew. I’ve been settling for less in my dating relationships.
I mentioned the “New Guy” I met in my birthday post. In case you don’t remember, here’s the short short version. Friend of a friend, really sweet, extremely gentlemanly. Ok, you’re caught up now. So I asked him out this weekend. I’m not usually the aggressive type but since we’ve hung out a few times already, I felt that I could take that liberty. Besides, I’m not sure if he thinks my boy (his friend) and I have something going on so I figured I’d take the initial step. But how about I manage to do something stupid everytime we see each other. On my birthday, I thought he was trying to jump in the front seat when he was trying to open my door. This time, we’re walking into the parking garage and I try to open the door. He says I’m at least consistent. I’m not sure if I’m suffering from “Independent Woman” syndrome or if I just have come to settle for men not doing things like opening doors and walking on the street side of the sidewalk. Now I don’t date very often but I guess I never considered it until now.
It came up again at the end of the night. He’s a really affectionate guy (lots of hugs all night) but I was surprised that this time I only got a closed mouth peck on the lips as a good-night kiss. I was surprised but oddly enough, not disappointed. I’ve gotten used to guys wanting to move faster (especially at the point of the good night kiss) and it was refreshing to have a sense of progression. So this is what courtship feels like huh?
Needless to say I’m enjoying being courted by the “New Guy”. A refreshing change from the clowns I’ve encountered over the past few months. This guy is college educated and intelligent (those are not necessarily mutually inclusive), attractive, funny, employed, not living with mom (I’ve seen his apartment), not a crackhead, has family values, no baby’s momma, and a gentleman. Well let’s just say I’m slightly smitten. Taking things slow is a change for the better. We’ll see where this goes.
But here’s a question for you all… What things are non-negotiables when you meet a new guy/gal and what things have you found out later that you were settling for?
